Getting Your Ex Back Through More Communication
A lack of communication causes many break ups to occur. Not talking, not listening, not sharing about things important to the both of you can strangle the intimacy. People often end relationships because of bad communication.
If this was involved in ending your relationship, there are some things you can do to get your ex back. You need to demonstrate that you can be a good listener and communicator.
This isn’t difficult. You can start by calling your ex and sharing yourself honestly. Tell them what it feels like to be without them. Tell them what is in your heart. Be vulnerable and honest. It can touch their heart.
Next, focus on being a good listener. Ask them some questions. Get them to open up. You might say “how do you feel about how I treated you?”
One way to be a good listener is to be quiet. So ask a question then shut up. Be okay with some silence. Let your ex take all the time they want to consider their feelings and start to share them with you.
Then focus on making your ex feel heard and understood as they open up and talk to you. As they talk, say things like “I’m hearing you, go on, continue, I follow you…” Making your ex feel heard and understood, really listened to, can be vital to getting them back.
It is also very crucial to not explain, rationalize, or defend yourself while they are talking. Just make them feel heard. Don’t interrupt. Don’t go into some story. Just listen until they seem done, then if appropriate explain or apologize.
There’s more to it, but just these few pointers are a great start. If your ex feels you are becoming a good listener, they may see you in a new light. This can open up their heart and make room for them to reconsider being with you.